So it has been awhile hello everyone. I’m in a talkie mood so I will talk. There are four major aspects in my life and I feel I have been stagnant in all of them which is a terrible thing since these four things define my self worth to me. They are school, work, appearance, and relationships. I have been in college for four years and have not yet finished my undergrad studies, I do not have a job and am meandering uselessly around the house, I am the heaviest I have ever been, my friendships are shadows of what they have been. By my own admission I must be the living dead. Worry not I live still, but these things these un accomplishments wear at my soul. I am full of useful insights about my life and if you have ever had a real conversation with me you would know this. I have plans and thoughts and ideas that I believe will all lead me to happiness, but my biggest failure is my inability to pursue them or perhaps greater still is my discontent self. Obviously I am doing something wrong, living wrong in some way for me to have such an unsatisfactory life that I feel I need to make goals. That in its self is not a flaw. What is a flaw is me leaving these dreams unfulfilled due in large part to inactivity. I do nothing and nothing ever changes. I am stagnant and it is smothering me. I need to change or I will die without ever really living.
I currently do not have a group. There is no list of people I feel comfortable with who I can be myself and who I don’t feel a lone with. I am a introverted person not very out going if I pass someone in the hallway I recognize I am more likely to say nothing to them. This is not to say I don’t like people, because I do if there are people I feel comfortable with I will talk and joke with the best of them. However crossing that barrier of being strangers to being familiar is a huge hurdle for me. When I had a group of friends this wasn’t so much a problem. Because in that group their were friends that were outgoing and made friends easily and I was pulled along by them and exposed to new people who I could become friends with at a slower more comfortable pace. However in the past year or so my group of friends has been shattered and I am adrift in the social world. Without that one outgoing person who I am close with. I feel cut off in a prison of my own making. There are people that I know, but with out a leader (a position I’m not sure I can fill). To bring people together I can not create a firm social circle. It does not need to be a lot of people just a handful. As i walk through the world and see all the people pass me by I am lost to a way to attract their attention. A part of me desires to step into that leadership role, to be the center that people can gather instead one of the crowd. However there is a strong part of me that does not know to accomplish this. That is my insecure part and until I find the will to overcome my own insecurities and step out into that social world I fear I am doomed to be alone.
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So I finished my first week of running and did not break my rule of never going 2 days straight without running Yay! Now I just need to keep this up for … basically forever fml lol
Hi everyone out there. If any one needs to talk about anything at all relationships, guys, girls, fitness goals ;) (that’s me) really anything at all, maybe you just need a friend. Feel free to ask me for advice and what not. I would really like to help you out if I can.
Ok this is kinda a continuation of my last post which got ridiculously long lol.
So there are diets and work outs and gym memberships out there that all are suppose to lose you some weight. Well here is my way the way that helped me lose 50+ pounds and it is free. Now I don’t know if this works for everybody, but it worked for me. The secret is RUN FAT BOY RUN! lol. Ok that was a joke, but not the running part. Seriously this what I did I ran… a lot. I started with three miles every other day did that for a month or so and then bumped up my run to four miles and just kept this up for months. Ok that is not all I did I also went to the gym like three times a week for some weight training, but it wasn’t very intense, just arms sit ups and chest and back. Also after the first week I kinda put myself on a diet. I did 2000 calories a day which really isn’t that hard especially once you really get used to it. I would have one bowl of cereal in the morning and then make myself a ham and swiss sandwich at lunch and then eat wherever I wanted for dinner as long as it didn’t exceed my 2000 limit. Its not that hard since most restaurants these days have their calories for their meals even fast food places you might have to look online. Also my 2000 calorie rule was more of a guideline as I may have gone over a few times by like 100 calories. it wasn’t exact, but it helped me watch what I ate. Also no soda I know this sounds hard at first, but it is a must otherwise you can’t eat like I did and keep the 2000 calorie rule. Water is your best friend have it with every meal. Thats it ok that sounds kinda complicated, but its not as bad as it seems just cause I am a run on writer lol no pun intended so lets break it down check list style.
Rules
#1 - Run at least thirty minuets doesn’t matter how fast I go slow, but steady no walking only running/jogging. You might have to work up to this, but it is the most important part the constant activity of 30+ mins every other day
#2 - The 2000 calorie rule(guideline) try to keep your daily calorie intact below this and it will help you lose that weight.
#3 - The No Soda rule kinda goes along with rule #2, but its important enough to include on its own. Water water water, juice and milk and stuff are alright, but include them in your calorie calculations.
#4 - Consistency is key. Never skip a day ever.
The last rule is the most important. This will never work if you don’t stay with it. Also give it time you are not going to lose weight over night, it takes time and hard work. 2-3 months sounds like a long time, but really its not and totally worth the results. If for some reason you lose no weight over this time you did something wrong or I’m full of shit and you have my permission to spit on me.
I’m in the process of starting this routine myself so if anyone wants my help or support losing weight just ask and I will help you stay on track, also you do not have to do this routine it is just what worked for me if you wanna do something else go right ahead I will still support your weight loss goals and we can help each other out. Any questions just ask.
I have always been on the heavier side of the scale. I’m not fat, and actually wear my weight well makes me look just thicker instead of obese. Still because I don’t feel very attractive it has always been a source of insecurity for me. Anyways last summer in may I weighed 240 lbs and was really disgusted by my weight. So what did I do I went out there and worked my ass off and in late august I weighed 189lbs the lightest I had ever been since well a long time. I was so proud of myself I was fit my stomach wasn’t flat, but I was getting there. It was an amazing feeling for me I was actually starting to feel like maybe I was attractive and my confidence received a huge boost because of it. Still my life got busy when school started in the fall and I fell outta the habit of exercising. I didn’t really gain any weight and then in the spring semester I was back to my old lazy habits and all of a sudden I started packing on the weight and here I am 260 lbs that is way heavier than I was at the start of last summer. My body type I think is one where I have to be constantly exercising or I start to gain weight. Anyways I am now working at getting back into shape and let me tell you it is hard, but I am hopeful because I lost it all once I can do it again it just takes time. Still it is extremely frustrating and to be honest it really affects how I feel about myself and let me tell you I fell like shit. I’m not trying to depress you, but I feel very strongly that how you look can really help how you feel about yourself. There are a lot of overweight people out there and I’m certain that these people wish they could look better I’m one of them. My advice to a person that is not satisfied with their weight is to exercise and try to lose that weight. Because I guarantee that you will feel a lot better about yourself. Now I’m not saying that image should be your one and only reason for happiness, because people who think like that are never satisfied. I’m only trying to say that making yourself look a little better by losing some weight can really help your confidence and pride in yourself.
lol I’ll keep that in mind your speaking what I’m already thinking my friend. Now if only I could overcome myself and just strike out there and do it, perhaps alcohol is the way to go lol
